Trust is a very, very expensive “thing”. You can’t buy it, you can’t touch it. But you know if you have it. You know if your heart and soul trust something or someone. And you know if you don’t have it for someone or something.
We’ve all been there. We’ve all trusted someone and then something happened to make us lose trust. That’s life. Those things happen. We can’t stop this kind of thing from happening. Everybody finds out sometime in their life that they placed trust in someone who betrayed that trust.
And that’s the worst feeling in the world. Sometimes it can take years to learn to trust someone. It is built slowly over time–sometimes a lifetime–but it takes only seconds for that trust to be lost.
No one can really give you advice on who you can trust or what to look for when you’re trying to decide if you can trust someone. All we can do is say, “Be careful”.
The devil was once an angel. Be careful who you trust.
You can’t ignore little red flags. When something comes up and your gut tells you that you can’t trust someone, listen. Listen to what your gut is saying. Don’t try to turn it into something else. It is what it is. Your gut and mind are trying to protect you.
Trust is necessary in all types of relationships: between partners/spouses, between friends, between coworkers, teachers and students, pastor and congregation and so on. If there is no trust in these relationships, they really aren’t relationships. They may know each other, but there isn’t a real relationship between them.
Usually when lack of trust ends a relationship, the one who has lost trust can look back and see that they ignored those little red flags. They told themselves they were imagining things or, in a business relationship, their partner just handled some business issues differently than they themselves did. Or if someone told them that a friend was bad-mouthing them, they decided it was the person telling them, the one sharing the news with them, who couldn’t be trusted.
Be careful. Listen to your gut and listen to your heart.
Sending you blessings of love and laughter from Sterrett, Alabama!
Charity M. Richey-Bentley
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