We’re almost three weeks into 2018 and I’m still doing a little winter cleaning. I want to make sure that all my relationships are healthy and good for me. I don’t want any kind of relationships that are not healthy and positive. And I don’t mean just a little healthy and positive. I want all my relationships to make me a better person. I want to be surrounded by people who are happy, positive, love life and who love me.
Distance yourself from people who: Mess with your head. Who intentionally and repeatedly do and say things that they know upset you. Who expect you to prioritize them, but refuse to prioritize you. Who can’t and won’t apologize sincerely. And who act like the victim when confronted with their abusive behavior.
Always remember that just because someone says they love you, it doesn’t give them a right to treat you badly. Never settle for anyone who doesn’t respect you. You’re too important to let someone mistreat you. God has a purpose for you and He wants you to know your worth so that you can carry out His purpose.
We’ve all be around or been in a relationship with someone who has tried to “mess with our head”. They try to control the relationship by trying to make us think a certain way or believe a certain way. They are very manipulating and try to manipulate everything about your life. Walk away from them. They are toxic.
Most of us have been around people who repeatedly say and do things to upset us. And they know it upsets us. Walk away. Always remember, he who angers you, controls you. Toxic people try everything to control you. Once they find out that a particular action or words upset you, they’ll do it over and over because that is their way of controlling you.
And what about those who want to be prioritized, but refuse to prioritize you? Their “I’m so busy” lie is so routine, it is as natural as breathing to them. Walk away from them. If they can’t prioritize you, let them go. No one is that busy. People make time for who they want to be with. Always have. Always will.
There is an art to an apology. And just like with any other other art, practice makes perfect. As we grow older, we learn how to apologize. It should be done with sincerity. I refuse to accept half-way apologies. If you’ve wronged me, your apology should be done with caring and sincerity. And if it isn’t, don’t bother. If you can’t apologize sincerely, you’re not really sorry.
Have you ever confronted someone about their abusive behavior and they turned it around and acted like the victim and accused you of abusing them? Yeah, me too. Get away from them as fast as you can. Don’t walk. Run. They will never change and you are hurting your heart and soul if you stay with them.
Let 2018 be the year that you make your circle positive, healthy, toxic-free and narcissistic-free. Surround yourself with people who love you, support you and want the very best for you!
Sending you blessings of love and laughter from Sterrett, Alabama~
Charity
Well said, thank you!