A friend of mine lost her mother this week. The statement, “I’m so sorry for the loss of your mother” seems so inadequate to say to someone when they’ve experienced this loss.
But in reality, there isn’t anything that does seem adequate. There’s nothing that is significant enough, nothing at a high enough level of language that can describe the pain we feel when we lose our mother.
To my mother in Heaven, Thank you for loving me and helping me. I miss you dearly. You are always in my heart.
I think there is one thing that can be said to those who grieve the loss of their mother: the consuming pain you feel is a great testament to the love you shared.
Over time, the pain may subside, but it never goes away. You just learn to live with it. You learn how to start breathing again and you learn to not fight the grief—you just let the process work.
If you still have your mother, never take a single second with her for granted. Spend as much time with her as you can. Have meals together. Shop with her. Laugh with her. Share your life with her. Share the good times and the bad. She wants to be part of your whole life—not just the good times.
There is nothing your mother won’t do for you. No road she won’t travel, no bridge she won’t cross, no fight she will back down from to protect you.
The fact that she would do anything for you is one of the reasons we grieve so much. We know we have lost our best friend. We have lost our champion. We have lost our confidant. We have lost our nurturer, our teacher, our therapist…we have lost our mother.
Show her you love her in every possible way. Seek her advice and relish her friendship while you can. Appreciate the raising she gave you and let her know that you’re so proud to call her mother.
Sending you blessings of love and gratitude from Sterrett, Alabama!
Charity M. Richey-Bentley
Joni says
Beautiful and so True God Bless
Patricia Reynolds says
I miss just picking up my phone to call my Mother, I called her so often, since I live in Indiana and Mother, was in Mississippi my hometown! Mother has been gone from earth for 14 years, It doesn’t seem that’s possible! I miss hearing her voice I love her and miss my Mother. If yours is still living visit often and talk to her everyday. We can’t after they are gone to Heaven.
Annette spencer says
My mom was everything gone to soon 🙏🏼😢 till we meet again 🌷
M Faheem Siddiqui says
Very nice article about the love of a mother and it is reality spend too much time with parents as much u can.
Susan says
Thank you for your post. My Mother left earth a little over three weeks ago. She had lived to be 95 Her family including me got to be with her when she passed away and I got to say I love you one last time to her! I miss her dearly especially talking to her on the phone since I lived away from her. I was blessed with a wonderful mother that I got to say goodbye to since she waited for us to be together on a Saturday before noon.
Linda says
This is so true. My mom has been gone for 20 years and miss her terribly. She was my best friend and was there whenever I needed her. Miss her everyday. I pray my daughter will feel the same when the time comes. I’m there for her all the time. ❤
Lin says
Beautiful- nothing is more sacred and powerful than a mother and daughyet relationship👏🏾♥️🙏🏾
Charity M. Richey-Bentley says
Thank you so much and thank you for being here.
Charity
Rudolph Talavera says
Thankyou so much in sharing such buetiful and loving thoughts memories of how I remember my Mom .
Patricia says
Yes. This is so true. My mother has been in Heaven for 34 years. I still miss her so. 😢
Folusho says
My mother went to heaven two months ago. It still hurts and I miss her so much but I am comforted by the knowledge of her love. I have been blessed
Kat says
I don’t even say I am sorry I give hugs tell them I am here for them nothing I can say can truly help but I can be that shoulder to cry on. Go help at the funeral home etc.
Helen Blue says
I miss her so much every day. It took me years to get past the idea that I couldn’t pick up the phone to share something with her. I talk to her every day because I know she’s in heaven and hears me. Until we are together in heaven, I love you and miss you.
Dawn says
I will never forget the things she taught me 2 b a lady. The love she gave me. There is not a day goes buy i dont think about her. Akways play our song dancing queen every day. Miss her so much.
Agnes Traspaderme says
I really miss u my dear mother… Especially that your birthday is coming…
And I’m so sorry for what I have done before…
I didn’t even listen to you Ma… if my birthday comes you prepared something but I don’t even show up…
Charity M. Richey-Bentley says
Please pray and learn to forgive yourself. A mother’s love knows no bounds.
And God’s love knows no bounds for you.
God bless you.
Charity