I often say that grief is a process. And I know it is, but during the daily grind of grief, it’s hard to remember that, isn’t it? You may go through a period of time,when each morning, you wake up, your first thought is of a loved one you have lost. And the last thought you have before sleeping is of that loved one too.
Many of us have loved ones in Heaven who we miss terribly. Of course we miss them on their birthday, death day and the biggest Holidays, but we also miss them every single day, every minute of the day. Not a minute goes by that we don’t miss them.
For spouses, you remember and cherish all the time you’ve had with each other. You remember the good times and the bad. You remember how you supported each other and how, when things seemed really bad, you persevered, worked at it and came through a stronger, happier couple.
In memory of all those who left us too soon…We remember you in the morning, in the night, a song, a place, a smell. You are always with us.
For lost friends, you remember good, happy times and cherish every minute you had with each other. I had a friend in high school that I lost. She was killed in a car crash. She loved this one song and would roll the windows down and sing and dance to it. Every time I hear that song, I think of her. And my heart hurts a little. But I also smile because I had that time with her.
Over the years, I have learned to embrace the feelings and remember all the good times with my loved ones. I try not to focus on any pain they may have been in, but remember all the blessings they had. And that’s what they would want us to do. They would want us to remember the good times.
So, I’m lighting and burning this candle for all our loved ones who have left us too soon. They will always be loved. They will always be missed.
Sending you blessings of love and gratitude from Sterrett, Alabama!
Charity M. Richey-Bentley
Thank you very much.
This is how I’m trying to remember my husband.
I was hurting hardest when I lost my baby girl cat. A couple of them. I was broken. They were with me 365 24/7 and one of them I had for 13 years and she got sick with kidney failure and it was to far go. I lost it. I got another baby cat and lost her eventually as well. My heart ❤️ was so broken. I now can’t see me getting another one. If I get a Drs. Note I could have one. I still grieving and it’s going on 3 years. I hurt but won’t talk about it. I live my life without her. I have gone on without her, but … she’s forever in my heart ❤️ and I love and miss those girls dearly!!!
I lost my eldest daughter over 11 years ago, and the ache of that is with me always. Funny things have happened since she died and I attribute them all to her, which makes me smile, thinking that she is somehow still around.
August 14,2011. I lost my only son at 27 years old to suicide. It was the worst day of my life. I relive it every day and will for the rest of my life. You never get over the loss of a child. Life goes on and so do you. But you are forever damaged. And you just always wonder why??
I am so very sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine your pain.
I am lifting you up in prayer.
God bless you.
Charity
I miss my mother so very much.she had such a wonderful sense of humor .A loving ,very kind person. I find myself laughing to myself when I think of some of the times we shared together. She earned her heavenly wings nine years ago.
I am sorry for your loss. It sounds like you were very close.
God bless you.
Charity
I lost my husband approximately 50 years in a few months being our 51 year anniversary. I miss him dearly the hardest is sleeping at night and eating alone in the daytime and having him with me 24 seven. He was only 67 when he passed but he lasted over 3 1/2 years after he was diagnosed with stage four lung cancer
I am so sorry for your loss.
I “hear” that you miss him in your words.
God bless you.
Charity
Thank you for sharing. My soulmate of 44 years passed 2 years ago today the day after our wedding anniversary. Most days is okay but like you said holidays, birthdays, death date, etc are the hardest. I am grateful for my family and my faith in God without whom I couldn’t make it. One day at a time.