A friend of mine lost her mother this week. The statement, “I’m so sorry for the loss of your mother” seems so inadequate to say to someone when they’ve experienced this loss.
But in reality, there isn’t anything that does seem adequate. There’s nothing that is significant enough, nothing at a high enough level of language that can describe the pain we feel when we lose our mother.
To my mother in Heaven, Thank you for loving me and helping me. I miss you dearly. You are always in my heart.
I think there is one thing that can be said to those who grieve the loss of their mother: the consuming pain you feel is a great testament to the love you shared.
Over time, the pain may subside, but it never goes away. You just learn to live with it. You learn how to start breathing again and you learn to not fight the grief—you just let the process work.
If you still have your mother, never take a single second with her for granted. Spend as much time with her as you can. Have meals together. Shop with her. Laugh with her. Share your life with her. Share the good times and the bad. She wants to be part of your whole life—not just the good times.
There is nothing your mother won’t do for you. No road she won’t travel, no bridge she won’t cross, no fight she will back down from to protect you.
The fact that she would do anything for you is one of the reasons we grieve so much. We know we have lost our best friend. We have lost our champion. We have lost our confidant. We have lost our nurturer, our teacher, our therapist…we have lost our mother.
Show her you love her in every possible way. Seek her advice and relish her friendship while you can. Appreciate the raising she gave you and let her know that you’re so proud to call her mother.
Sending you blessings of love and gratitude from Sterrett, Alabama!
Charity M. Richey-Bentley
I miss my mama it’s been 48 years and I still think about her and think about what she said and did
God bless and keep you.
Charity
Dance with the angels darling mom,it feels so empty without you…
I feel your pain. God is with you.
God bless and keep you.
Charity
She will alway’s be in a Special place in your heart.One glorious day we will be reunited with our Mama’s.Blessing’s,alway’s.
God bless you. Thank you for your comments.
May God protect you.
Charity
Tomorrow is the 1st anniversary of my father’s death. I miss both of them so much. But I miss my mother a bit more. I was so close to both of them. I was also their caregiver. I think it is harder when you are the caregiver in addition to their child. When you live with someone and they are gone, it is different than when you don’t . You miss them for sure, but I think I hear one or the other at odd times. That is hard. My mother died 4 years ago but it hasn’t gotten any easier. It also does not help that in 4 years I have lost all my Aunts and Uncles minus one plus 2 cousins. A total of 7 people close to me. I have become the glue that holds the rest of the family who are interested in keeping close. I have become my mother in a sense.
I am also the only one in the family not married. So I have a limited , very limited support system now.
That is the end of my rant. Be well everyone. I will be fine.
Thank you so much for sharing. Your heavenly rewards will be great.
God bless and keep you.
Charity
My mom died in January and I still cry. I love you mom. Bertha, Angie. My best friend. I miss you so much love candy
I am lifting you up in prayer so that you may feel the presence of the Lord.
God bless and keep you.
Charity
My Mom passed away was 18 years in July. I think of her, & miss her, every single day. She was beautiful inside & out, with a heart of gold. Always there for us no matter what. I used to tell her that she was “one in a trillion,” because she was, & always will be to me. I love you Mama. I know we will be together again one day. xoxoxo
I Know you love and miss her. Keeping you in my prayers.
God bless and keep you.
Charity
I have a special place in my heart for you not just your saying but the area you are from etc makes me live in you as l lost my mom in 1999 and was always seemed to alone except for her.
Thank you and thank you so much for being here with us.
God bless and keep you safe.
Charity