Grief is a terrible thing. When you lose someone you love, your heart is broken, you feel lost, you feel disconnected from the rest of the world and you, at times, feel hopeless.
You may experience a range of raw, hurting emotions. Shock, anger, disbelief, guilt, and profound sadness are all normal emotions during the grief process.
Your physical health can also be affected. Loss of sleep, eating too little, eating too much, not eating at all, not being able to think coherently are physical factors which co-exist with the emotional factors.
There’s is no right or wrong way to grieve. We are all very different and we deal with grief very differently.
How you go through grieving depend on many things, including how you cope, your faith, the significance of the loss, your life experiences and other things.
What we have to keep in mind is that grieving is a process. For some, it is a shorter process than for others. But it does take time.
There is no way to force your way through the grief process–you can’t hurry it up. There is no time-table that you should follow to get through the different steps of grieving.
Some people start to feel better in weeks or months, but others grieve for years. Don’t ever let anyone tell you that you are grieving too long. Everyone’s grief process is different.
The important thing to keep in mind is that you must be patient with yourself. You have to let the grief process naturally happen. That’s the only way you can begin to feel better.
One of our followers emailed me the other day. She was talking about the loss of her husband. She told me how some days she was perfectly happy, that she would laugh a lot with her grandchildren and be able to function normally.
She called days like these her “sunshine days”. But she also said, “There are some days, I think I smell that clean soap smell he always had or I see something in the barn–a saddle, one of the horses I know he would have loved, or I think I hear him call my name.” She called those days her “dark days”.
As I was reading the email, I thought he must have been gone only a short while, so I asked how long ago she had lost her beloved. She said, “Twenty-six years”.
Give yourself time. Be patient with yourself. And pray. When you need to cry, cry. When you need to scream, scream. And never let anyone tell you that there is a time-frame for grief.
Sending you prayerful blessings of love and gratitude from Sterrett, Alabama!
Charity M. Richey-Bentley
True still grieving my beloved wife best friend
I understand. It is a process.
God bless and keep you.
Charity
So very true. Best advice is One Day At a Time Sweet Jesus
Thank you so much. God bless and keep you.
Charity
I’m still grieving the love of my life my husband been gone for 3 years miss him everyday
I am lifting you up in prayer.
God bless and keep you.
Charity
Been three years and somedays I totally lose it!
Lost my high school sweetheart, best friend, hero and father to our only child and husband of 41 years July 21 2020. It still feels like yesterday. People tell me often it’s time to move on he’s not coming back. I love him the same as if was the day of our wedding and always will!
No one can tell you how to go through grief. It’s different for all of us.
God bless and keep you.
Charity
I lost my husband six years ago and I still greive over him. I’m ok during the day but at night that’s when it hurts ,it’s when I need someone to talk too.He left behind a wife and two young kids.
I am lifting you up in prayer. God bless and keep you.
Charity
You and your spouse are “we”. It is hard to go back to an “I”. It took me 3 years and a spouse grieving group to even think as an “I”. Every place you go socially, you see couples. It makes you sad so you often stay at home.
At holidays and special days, I now try to give to others. I contribute to the favorite charities of my son and husband at Christmas time. My husband has been in Heaven for 27 years and my son for 6 years.
“Moving on” is not what happens. You learn to live the new normal and allow yourself to find new activities.
You are right. You just learn to live with it.
I am lifting you up in prayer. May God give you His comfort and His peace.
God bless and keep you.
Charity
Over 32 yrs and my soulmate.
I hear you. I am lifting you up in prayer.
God bless and keep you.
Charity
My youngest daughter I am not allowed to see because of her husband. I can’t see my grandchildren. It will be 3 years this Christmas, and I still cry everyday 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I am lifting you up in prayer. May God heal your family.
God bless and keep you.
Charity
Thank u kindly for this website, words and
link i saw on FB.
Thank you for being here with us.
God bless and keep you.
Charity